When Wedding Bell Rings ...

Yesterday, i have proposed to my guy about my tentative wed expenses that we both should think of it ..I know he good in figure and OMG ..he seems like to rob a bank . hehe

I first start with the big picture and then work my way down to the details. The first issue I need to think about, as it will effect the rest of my wedding planning, is money.

My reason is that i want a simple wedding but ...when look at the good , services that may encounter , it really costs.no matter how simple we want it.

Wedding is one of the most important days of your life, and of course i want to splurge a little to make it special . ..I know it takes time and effort . I just want everything to be memorable . .

Butterfly Lovers

when i was young, i watched this movie and i really can't forget the stoy because its really my me tears and feel awesome . Butterfly lovers is a chinese legend about the tragic romance between two lovers . The legend is sometimes regarded as Chinese equivalent to Romeo and Juliet .

...Begin ...

The legend of Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai is a beautiful, doleful, and moving love story .The story is set in the Eastern Jin Dynasty.
It begins with a beautiful, intelligent young woman named Zhu Yingtai from Shangyu, Zhejiang, who is the ninth child and the only daughter of the wealthy noble Zhu family. After much effort, she convinced her father to let her disguise herself as a young man traveling to Hangzhou to study. During her journey, she encountered Liang Shanbo, a scholar from Kuaiji (會稽, Kuàijī, now known as Shaoxing), in the same province. They felt like old friends at the first meeting. Therefore, they gathered some soil as incense and took vows of brotherhood in the pavilion of a thatched bridge.

For the three years in school, they shared the same room where there was only one bed and two quilts. Yingtai slowly fell in love with Shanbo. Although being every bit Yingtai's equal in studies, Shanbo was a bookworm and did not see any traces of female characteristics in Yingtai.
Time flew by quickly. Three years passed, and one day Yingtai received a letter from her father asking her to return home as quickly as possible. Yingtai had no alternative but to pack her belongings immediately and bid farewell. In Yingtai’s heart, she had decided that even if heaven and earth passed away, her love for Liang Shanbo would never change, and she wanted to be with him for all eternity. Hence, before her departure, Yingtai revealed her true identity to her headmaster's wife and requested the headmaster’s wife to hand her jade pendant as a betrothal gift to Shanbo.

Liang Shanbo, being Yingtai’s sworn brother, accompanied Yingtai for 18 miles to send her off. During the journey, Yingtai hinted to Shanbo that she was a girl. For example, she compared themselves to a pair of mandarin ducks, but Shanbo did not catch onto her hidden meaning and did not even have the slightest suspicion that she was a girl. Finally Yingtai thought of an idea: she told Shanbo that she would be a matchmaker and match make Shanbo with her sister. Before the two parted, Yingtai reminded Shanbo to pay a visit to her house so that he can propose a marriage to her "sister" (who was really herself). Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai reluctantly took leave of each other at the pavilion where they had first met.
When Shanbo arrived at Yingtai’s home, he discovered her true gender. They were devoted to and passionate about each other, and the lovers vowed that if they cannot live together, they will die together. The joy of the reunion of the two came to an end when Yingtai told Shanbo that her parents had forced her to marry Ma Wencai (馬文才, Mǎ Wéncái), a rich and spoiled gentleman.
Liang Shanbo was heartbroken. His health slowly deteriorated until he became seriously ill and later died in his office as a county magistrate.

On the day Yingtai was to be married to Ma Wencai, whirlwinds prevented the wedding procession from escorting Yingtai beyond Shanbo’s tomb. Yingtai left the procession to pay her respects for Shanbo. Yingtai descended in bitter despair and begged the grave to open up. Suddenly there was a clap of thunder, and the tomb opened as Yingtai had wished. Without hesitation, Yingtai leapt into the grave to join her beloved Shanbo. Yingtai and Shanbo's spirits had turned into a pair of beautiful butterflies and emerged from the tomb, flying together among the flowers forever, never to be apart again.

Here ...tears will flow.....

Imagination and Dreamers

" Imagination is more important than knowledge" -Einstein

" Imagination rules the world " -Disraeli

Many of us like to imagine whether in terms of ambition, life partner , financial wealth or etc.

i dont like other who have "little black book " who wrote everthing.....but now i realize , i should have it .

My last year resolution, i had wrote 9 resolutions in a year to achieve...suprisely , i have achieved 5 items of it ! yes , its true...everything should be in piece so that we can imagine the flow and method we target .

We need a good imagination in order to learn quickly and easily . Imagination is the key to all learning and all problem-solving , and hence the Edisons and the Einsteins of this world have all the had excellent imaginations .

A good imagination is also important for a good memory. This is one reason why older people often report having bad memories -they have let their deteriorate such that their mind will no longer create pictures which will 'stick' in their mind .

Why i'm learning and say about this? because im learning to relax my body and mind .

Everything stards as a dream. Stand by your dream. As the song says "if you never have a dream, you'll never have a dream come true. "

Humour -Like or Dislike?

What else can i do to make people love me? How to make people surround me feel happy about me?

it is true that laughter is the best medicine for all??

From the perspective, when we laugh , all kinds of wonderful things happen to benefit our body and mind . Endorphins are released in brain which give natural high and our respiratory system gets the kind of work-out that it may get from jogging .

Laughter relieves pain . I can only laugh when i relaxed and the less pain i feel ; funny books or movie are the ideal pain relievers .

But sometimes i hate humours that can make me down...and for me only selected humours i can accepted . Different people are different terms of acceptance. hehe

The art of being happy involves being able to laugh at difficulties as soon as possible after they happen . But , only fews people can do this ..

From time to time..the elements of miserable is my aim to avoid .

My life is all about serious yesterday....but i knew it doesn't make me feel good when i grew up .

When we having fun , we feel better , we work better and people want to be around us..

Dealing with Depressions

Hi..its been for a month i didn't write this blog..doesn't mean that i don't have any happy news to post..its just a stop for a moment for me to continue my aim to be happy like others...

Eveyone of us goes through times when life seems extremely difficult- we are left alone, we can't pay the bills, we have lost our jobs, we have lost a loved one. At these times we wonder how we will possibly make it through the next week. Somehow we usually do!

It is possible to lose our perspective, and to paint the picture gloomier than it really is.

i always asked myself...am i learning from what has happened to me??- series of serious discussion with my loved guy, i believe that from my thought time -i'm learning.

goes on and goes on .

The happiest people tend to be able always their hard times as a valuable learning experience...Smile on their faces, everything will merge for better .

Probably the greatest way to feel better about myself is i do something good for somebody else.

Excessive worry wasn't good and i try to eliminate this feeling.. The moment i start happy...i can look my love will grow and shine . Is is automatic . simple and wonderful.

Thanks to my dear who give me the meaning of sharing of love....and i knew how much you try to make me feel like this .--You are the Love of My Life -